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of the most important activities you can engage in is
finding your own definitions or models of success. This
is important for a number of reasons: Because, if you havent
done this, then how do you know whats best for you?
How can you make career decisions if you arent clear
about how you define success? How can you be happy if you
dont know when youre successful?
There is never a bad time to discover
and be clear on your definition of success. Todays
economic realities make the timing even better. If your
career hasnt gone according to plan, or even if it
has, re-examine what it is that you actually want. Doing
so can make you a lot happier.
Success: On whose terms?
If you havent taken the
time to define it, success has already been defined for
you. Youre already following models of career and
life success. The question is whether they are your own,
or the ones you inherited. One of your greatest career challenges
is identifying goals and definitions of success that are
true to you rather than the ones you inherited from others.
Your current model of success may or may not work for you.
So it is important to understand your assumptions and to
question them. If you follow a path to success that isnt
your own, you may achieve your goals, but when you arrive
at the destination, you may not feel successful or fulfiled
at all.
Keep in mind that your existing
job may hold the key to your happiness. For example, if
you were to discover that making your customers happy was
the one thing that defines and inspires you, what would
that do to your focus and state of mind?
Choose your parameters
You have the power to reaffirm
existing models or adopt new models of success. All it takes
is some honest thinking, clarity of purpose and the discipline
to stay true to your values in the long run.
• Accept that there are
always alternatives. The very fact that so many of us have
not questioned the paths we are on speaks of a lack of awareness
or acceptance of alternative paths. There are always options
or other valid ways of defining career and life success.
• Examine your path. Do
you love what you do? Do you do fantastic work as a result?
Does your work complement your personal and family life
or detract from it? Are you excited about your vision of
the future? Is this the best use of your precious gifts
and time?
• Time for introspection.
Always ask yourself these questions: What makes me happy?
How do I feel? What do I want? And then, answer a question
from the coaching school CoachVille.com, I
know how successful I am by how (fill in the blank).
The answers to this question will point you in the right
direction. You can have several definitions of success as
long as they dont contradict each other.
• Refine Your Responses:
Ask yourself why? and is that what I really
want? after each response to the statement until each
rings true. For example, if your first response was, Ill
know I am successful when I am a millionaire, ask
yourself why you want to be a millionaire. You might, for
example, find out that success for you is to have the freedom
to use your time as you wish, or the ability to travel or
be rid of financial worries. This process may lead you to
make other decisions in your life that will help you reach
your goal.
• Ask friends: Test your
responses with people who know you really well. Do they
ring true?
One definition of success that
puts this philosophy into simple words comes from the American
author Christopher Morley, who wrote: There is only
one success ? to be able to spend your life in your own
way.
Being clear about how you define
success will reap immeasurable rewards.

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